Friday, December 2, 2011

Thoughts from Sophie Ayantu's dad and grandpa

Well November 30th we passed court... To give you an idea of what that was like here is Grandpa Daryl's description:

We got to court a little after 9am and went up to the 3rd floor to a waiting room. The room was about 25 x 25 feet, a few chairs around the sides and lots of people waiting. We waited for at least a half hour. While we were waiting the "lawyer" or substitute lawyer, told us he had a document from the Mati Police stating that they had tried, by posters and asking around, to find the parents of Ayantu. This might be asked for by the judge. This was to confirm that she was really abandoned and an effort was made to find the parents. No doubt the parents, or mother, was just too poor to care of a child and hoped that life in the orphanage would be better.

When we were called in, we walked into a long office that was the length of the waiting room and about 8 feet wide. I don't remember seeing anything on the walls. There were 4 chairs at the end of the room where we walked in, we stood in front of the chairs, and the judge (she looked to be in her early 40's, but really hard to tell) was behind her desk at the other end of the room. She looked up at us from her papers, without a smile, and told us we could be seated. She then began to ask Aaron a series of questions. It seemed obvious she wanted a short one word answer to the questions. The judge spoke fairly good english , rapidly, and just loud enough to be heard down the long room. She began:
'Have you been studying about Ethiopia?'
-yes
'Have you been in contact with other families adopting from Ethiopia?'
-yes
'Have you seen Ayantu?'
-yes
'Do you want to adopt Ayantu?'
-yes!
'Do you know the adoption is binding and she will always be your responsibility?'
-yes
'Do you have other children'
-No
'You know that the adoption cannot be canceled?'
-yes
'Have you taken classes on parenting?'
-yes
'It is very impotant that the child learns about their heritage and culture. Now Ayantu is your child.'

And that was it. The assistant opened the door and we walked out. The judge looked back down at her papers and never smiled. We walked back through the waiting room and the "lawyer" shook our hands and expressed words of congratulations. Aaron came up and put his arm around my shoulders and I congratulated him... but I was sort of in "wonder/shock" from what just happened. Not sure what we expected it would be like, as far as the hearing, but I know that was not it? We thought Aaron might be asked why Sarah was not there, or question the lawyer about the possibility of parents, but nothing of the sort.


Some of Aaron's thought about Sophie Ayantu from emails he's written me:

We just came back from the foster home. I love being there. I love that everytime I go there, Ayantu opens her eyes when I walk in. She is such a little busy body. She needs to watch everything that is happening, very curious! She was cuing a little more and has been more talkative. We gave her some tummy time today. She seems to like that but lets us know when she is done. This girl is quite amazing. We are the 'lucky' ones (her name means lucky).

From another email:

I have been having such a good time with Sophie. I have realized that Saturday is going to suck. Every time I leave her it gets harder and harder. Yesterday she was sleeping and looked very cute. I had to do a couple double takes. I would leave the room and then come back in again and do it again. I am hearing great things about the US embassy. Is it possible that we will get her in January? I hope so!!!!!

Grandpa Daryls' thoughts on the parents having to say goodbye to the children they have now met and love:

We left the foster home somewhat late as Aaron was with Sophie in her room. She was almost asleep or sleeping in his arms when he laid her in her bed and then she opened her eyes. Of course when she did that Aaron could not leave!

Mark and Krisy were leaving at 2 am to go back to the states (another family adopting). Krisy said she had an emotional barrier at this time to their child, so leaving was not hard. She said once it was official and they had the child in their arms heading for the states she would let her emotions go and cry her eyes out...

Everyone said how much they thought Sarah must be sad not to be able to come. But one aspect of her not coming is that Sarah will miss some of the agony of having to leave Ayantu, here at the foster home until she can be picked up to go to the states. That is the moment of unspoken dread that all who are holding their babies have in the back of their mind. Aaron has mentioned it several times. To spend a week with their new babies and then have to leave them in the foster home, without the care they long to give them, is a heartbreak. All speak of the fact that they have the child that God designed for them, and a real gift beyond measure, and no matter what the difficulty with agencies or other circumstances, they have the child they want, love and is just right for them.

With just the 8-10 couples we've seen come and meet their kids, for the first time, it is a real joy to see them bond with them. Most, if not all, have seen pictures of them and have some basic facts of weight and approximate age, but to hold their child for the first time is, of course, totally different! And in a flash they have the whole new wonder and excitement of holding their child. It will be the same for Sarah, but just a little longer wait.


Aaron has mentioned this many times on the phone or in emails... He is so frustrated just thinking about having to say goodbye on Saturday. Please pray for peace and comfort for him and little Sophie Ayantu as they say goodbye and over their time appart!!!! And pray that our embassy date comes in January like they are indicating so we can bring little Soph home!!!!

Monday, November 28, 2011

Mati Orphanage

Wow, it was so great to hear all about the day Aaron and Dad had, but hard at the same time since I am not able to be there. I have seen 1 picture of Aaron and Sophie Ayantu! She is an adorbale little peanut!!!! Again, unfortunately we can't post pictures online for a few more months until we are cleared to travel back to the states. So we will obey the rules even though it is very difficult not to share this precious child with you all! Here's what Aaron said in his email about today...

She is so amazing! Didn't cry once on the trip. She fell asleep twice on my chest. She is so sweet! I wish you could be here.

I was able to talk on the phone to him and my dad for over 20 minutes today. They said the trip was long (3 hours one way) and hot since there wasn't air in the car and it was over 80 degrees there today. The countryside was 'eye-opening' as far as the poverty level. When they got to the orphanage Sophie Ayantu was asleep, Aaron walked over to where she was sleeping and she turned and opened her eyes and looked right at him :) The picture that I have seen is of him holding her and she is smiling up at him with this huge smile! She loves her daddy already!! They spent some time with the staff at the ophanage, they are wonderful! They held a coffee ceremony for the departure of little Sophie Ayantu. Aaron said he's had 6 cups of coffee since he's been there, and this is someone who NEVER drinks coffee :)

They took the staff out for lunch at a hotel in town, the food was good. Sophie Ayantu is a very easy going/content baby, she did well at lunch and on the road. Aaron changed his first diaper today... a poopy one at that! And little Sophie Ayantu peed while he was changing her, and smiled a huge smile about it! That should get Aaron ready for diaper duty!!! She did so well on the 3 hour trip back. Slept a lot on Aaron's chest and played some with daddy and grandpa! They dropped her off at the foster home, but couldn't stay long with her there as their driver needed to get back. They will visit her in the morning. Aaron and dad both sound VERY tired, but are happy with how the day went. I am sure it is all sort of a blur... Aaron is looking forward to the next few days and just spending time with his daughter!

Dad filled us in on how she is developmentally. At just shy of 6 months she only weighs around or just over 10 pounds! He said she doesn't seem malnurished, just tiny. She can roll over and scoot around a bit, but she is not sitting up yet. She's very reponsive to people, and has great eye-contact and is very happy. Sort of like a 6 month old personality in a 2 month old's body! She's healthy though, so we are thankful!

Thanks for all your continued prayers as they continue this adventure... Court is Wednesday morning, our lawyer has assured Aaron many times that things should go very smoothly! Sorry for typos and spelling errors... for some reason the computer I am doing this on doesn't have my normal tool bar on the blog site... no spell check :)

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Aaron and Dad in Addis!

It's 6 in the morning and I am up because Aaron and Dad called from Addis a little while ago! I figured I would blog and post that to facebook since there is so much information! Communication has been really good so far, I hear from them pretty often either by phone or email which is wonderful!!!! Here are some of Aaron's thoughts from the plane:

'The flight went well, I watched 2 movies, fast 5 and pirates of the caribbean. Food was ok, had a salad, bread and cheese, and chicken with green beans. They gave us a snack and it was gross. Had a banana and OJ with it too. Ok, there is your food update.'

When they got into Addis everything went smoothly, and they got to the guest house with no problems. Aaron was able to sleep since he did not sleep much on the trip, dad on the other hand had a little more trouble sleeping when they got in. Today (Sunday) is almost over for them as they are 9 hours ahead of us. They ate breakfast at the guest house this morning and met some great people. A woman named Jen (who is adopting a little girl) has been helping them out and a woman named Harage is the receptionist at the guest house and has been a wonderful help as well. Aaron is thankful to have great support and people showing them the ropes. Here are some more of Aaron's words:

'So we went to lunch with Jen and Harage. We ate some Ethiopian food. The bread has the texture of skin, but it is really good. And yes, I took pics of the food. The foster home is nice but seems a little crowded. The ladies that work there are angels. They really love the kids. The kids as you can see in the pictures are so loving. They came up and played with us right away. We will probably go to bed early tonight. We are going to the museum to see Lucy (oldest skeleton ever found).'

Tomorrow they will get up early for breakfast and get on the road to Batu to go meet Sophie at the Orphanage and then bring her back to the foster home. harage will be going with to help them out! I am praising God for placing the right people in their path to help them along on this adventure!!! What a blessing!

Thursday, November 3, 2011

The countdown is on...

It's November, and as the days tick closer and closer to Aaron's trip my head spins faster and faster with packing lists, paperwork trails, endless to-dos, and a scary shopping list! You see, there are many people Aaron will come into contact with while he is in Ethiopia... Guest house staff, orphanage staff, foster home staff, drivers, lawyers, and agency contacts... All of whom expect gifts to be given from the families they work for, as is customary in Ethiopia. That's a lot of gifts!!! Then there's the list of things we should bring for Sophie to have at the foster home, and all the paperwork that needs to be ready to go... Aaron will be lucky if I remember to pack him underwear!!!  

I often stop myself these crazy days though, and remember that this is November and Thanksgiving is also drawing near as the days tick by; and we have SOOO much to be thankful for this year! 2 healthy girls on their way, a court date that has been God ordained to be perfect timing, the knowledge that Aaron will be with Sophie in less than a month, a warm home, food on our table, financial provisions each step of the way in this costly process, a good job, great family and friends, EACH OTHER, and most importantly a loving and faithful Father in heaven!!!! Lord, may I lean into you each day this month, and thank you for your many gifts. May I trust your hand and heart each moment, rather than fret and worry over things you hold. May I learn to live each moment at rest, having assurance that you are with me in all things! In Jesus precious name I pray... Amen.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Aaron has a plane ticket to Ethiopia!!!

Hello dear friends and family!

We have our court date.... and it is sooner than expected!!!! Aaron and my dad will be leaving Friday November 25th for Addis Ababa Ethiopia! Court will be on November 30th, they return home on Sunday December 4th! Aaron will get to meet Sophie Ayantu at the orphanage she has been housed at since she was found, after he has met her and seen the orphanage she can be moved to the foster/boarding home that is run by our adoption agency! She will be housed there (with better medical and more one on one care) until Aaron returns to Ethiopia for the US embassy hearing, after all that clears we can get her home!!!!!

Thank you for your prayers, we are praising God for such a soon court date!!! And a huge praise that the court date is a month before my due date so (Lord willing) Aaron will be here for Claire's birth! Please join us in giving God the glory for his perfect timing!!!!!

Here are a few specifics to be praying for:
-Health and well-being of little Sophie Ayantu!
-That we would get everything done (paperwork, shots, Aaron's leave from work, substitute teacher and plans etc.) in a smooth, timely manner before the trip!
-That the initial hearing of our case (that we don't have to be present for) on Nov 18th would pass without any problems or delays.
-That the trip itself would go smoothly, and we would pass court with no problems or delays (and on the dates they have given).
-Safe travel!
-Please start praying for God's hand and timing in the US embassy investigation, hearing and trip... this is where people are running into problems.

*Side note: once Aaron returns from this trip we wait for the US embassy to investigate and call us to a hearing (at which point Aaron will return to Ethiopia for the hearing and upon passing the hearing gets to bring Sophie home on that trip). It used to be about a month between the 2 trips, lately it has been taking longer. So we are looking at Jan, Feb, March for bringing her home? Please pray that God's hand would be in the timing here (not too soon with Claire coming, not too long for Sophie's sake!).

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Please be praying...

Hi friends and family,

It has been a crazy week since we got our referral. Things are still sinking in. A few things I want to share and then a long list of prayer requests. Since last week we have found out more information... First a fun fact: Ayantu means "blessed for the future" which I think is so cool! Now onto info: it looks like the courts will open back up in mid-October, our case is already filed at the court house and we have a file number. When the courts open back up we will get a court date. I know of another family with our agency who got their referral at the end of July and have a court date set for early November (and remember the courts are shut down August/September/and 1/2 October... so that's not a lot of wait time in between referral and court)! As we realized our court could be as soon as December, January, or February we also realized it will just be Aaron going. Which means Sophie will come home on a different visa since we are both not going to be present in court. Well... this means we need to do more paperwork and foster home licensing here in IL. Which means more chances for hold-ups delays. This whole process is making my head spin, and I am trying not to worry about all the millions of things that could go wrong, so this is where I need prayer!!! Lots of prayer!!! Here are some things to please be praying about:

-That our extra paper-work/licensing here in IL would go smoothly and quickly and not delay anything.
-That our court date would not coincide with my due date (we obviously want Aaron here for the birth).
-That there wouldn't be any complications to my not being able to be present for court.
-That Aaron and I would both trust God's plan/hand/timing in all this.
-Ultimately: that God's plan in all this will be accomplished and to His glory!